People have noted how some of the most wildly successful people seem to dress
in a uniform. Even though he could have afforded any type of clothing, Apple
founder Steve Jobs chose to always appear in the same combination of jeans and a
black turtleneck. Facebook's founder Mark Zuckerberg said that he has only one
drawer at his house filled with "about 20 of these gray t-shirts."
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Why would such successful people choose to limit
themselves so much? Zuckerberg recently answered that question by saying he
wanted to spend his time focused on the thing that mattered most to him. "I'd
feel I'm not doing my job if I spend any of my energy on things that are silly
or frivolous about my life." That may be a bit of an overstatement, but it is
true that highly successful people pour more of their energy into achieving
their goals than most people. They strive to cut out distractions, whatever they
may be, in order to really focus on making their product or service the best in
its class.
Always prepare to give a defense
That lesson is also true in sharing your faith. We are commanded to make
preparations before we have encounters with people to be able to answer their
questions on Christianity. 1 Peter 3:15, which reads "Always be prepared to give
a defense to those who ask of the hope that is within you," is the most
well-known of these verses, but there are
many others.
So, while you don't have to limit your wardrobe choices, it
is imperative for Christians to prepare before they step outside the door. Make
sure you have studied some of the key objections that are common among skeptics
such as arguments for the
existence of God,
dealing with the
problem of evil, and the evidence for the
resurrection of Jesus. Make sure you look at both sides of a controversial
issue. As I've warned both
in this series and more fully in a
previous article, you do not want to erect a straw man. You should be able
to put the issue and the solution into
plain language without using "Christianese" in order to make sure that you
are understood.
Don't bluff
Of course, it's impossible to know everything.
People will have had different experiences from you and they will have heard
different things. They may bring up a point that you hadn't heard yet or perhaps
something you haven't thought a lot about. The key in these situations is to
recognize that you aren't fully prepared to answer that point. Don't bluff!
Bluffing may be an acceptable strategy for poker, but when the goal of a
conversation is to discover the truth about an issue, bluffing an answer is the
worst thing you can do! In certain situations you will have to admit that you
hadn't heard that point before. Don't be afraid to tell someone "that's an
interesting question; I'd like to get back to you on that." However, if you
offer that response, you have now obligated yourself to dig into the books and
really seek out an answer. This means you will need to set aside time to
investigate the question thoroughly.
Make sure you set a time to meet again
Because you are taking on such an obligation, whenever you hit a roadblock
you should always agree on a time to meet again and take up the conversation.
This offers two advantages: first, it makes sure the other person is serious
about continuing the discussion. While the research in digging out an answer is
always good for you, you don't want to always be doing research if he or she
isn't interested in engaging in your findings. If they don't want to meet again,
you will know their objection is simply a
smokescreen.
Second, setting a time pushes you to not procrastinate. I
know that a lot of things compete for our time and distractions can creep into
our lives, causing us to delay doing those important things. If you delay
meeting again because you haven't had time to look into the issue may be
perceived by them as you not really caring about the truth, or worse they may
feel you don't care about them! It's also best to try and capture a puzzling
question when it is fresh in your mind, so you can get the objection right and
not spend a lot of time researching something the other person wasn't ever
asking.
To be successful in sharing and defending one's faith will require
time and effort. There's simply no escaping that. However, once you put in that
effort, you may be surprised at the dividends it pays.
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